Today is a big day! One I am truly grateful to experience. So, I cannot help but offer a little advice to my son on his wedding day.
It’s crazy to think how fast this time has gone since he was born 28 years ago. When my husband and I brought him home from the hospital, we had no idea what we were doing. We did our best to raise him into a loving, responsible, and caring adult. We had disagreements along the way about the best way to raise him, but we made it, and now he gets to go on the journey of marriage himself.
He met someone who makes him happy. They are great together, and it is so comforting to know that he is starting out his marriage with love as the foundation.
Marriage can be exhilarating, and it can be really hard. It can be boring, and it can be scary. It can be heartbreaking, and it can be the best thing ever. There will be days when you don’t like each other, and there will be days when all you want to do is kiss. But as long as you love each other one day at a time, you will survive.
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Advice to My Son On His Wedding Day
Marriage is always a work in progress. It needs to be nurtured. Lots of things will change over your marriage, and you need to commit to each other that your relationship is always the most important. Remember the love you are feeling today. Even when the kids are taking sides, make sure you and your wife are on the same page!
Make sure you both have your own friends and your own hobbies on top of your shared ones. You do not want to resent your partner for having things to do when you don’t. Just make sure you do things together as well and be mindful of the time you are spending apart. Plan date nights and keep to the schedule. As life gets busier, you will be glad this has become a habit!
Always communicate. Talk to each other about what is happening in each other’s lives. Share your feelings and listen to each other. If you sense your wife is sad, mad, angry, worried, or stressed, ask her about it. She might not want to share immediately, but just asking opens the door for conversations later and lets her know you care.
Arguing is healthy and inevitable. Remember that it’s not you against her, but you together against the problem. I know you are like your dad and want to be right, but it’s more important to listen to the other side and come up with a solution together. This is something you will work on for all of your marriage! We are still working on this after 30 years.
A lot of people will tell you never to go to bed angry. But sometimes, getting some sleep is just what you need. After a good night’s rest, you may wake up and forget why you were angry in the first place.
Make each other laugh. When you laugh together, you share an intimate moment that can bring you closer. One of my favorite things is to see your dad laugh spontaneously. It tells me he is happy, and that is precious to me.
Share a dream. Find something you both want to do or create or save for. Work on it together. You should also have your own dreams as well. The key is to be sure you are supportive of each other’s dreams, as crazy as they may be! Let her succeed or fail after trying.
Make each other a priority. Life can get really busy, and sometimes your lives go in different directions. Make sure you check in with each other and know how she is feeling. Make time for each other. She is the most important person in your life to keep happy and loving.
This is a big day, and I am so excited for you! Thank you for being an amazing son, and I know you will be a fantastic husband. Have a lot of fun, and when you are ready, I’d love a few grandkids because I know you will be a great dad!
Live a marvelous life and love each other one day at a time! Love you!
Now that the wedding is over let’s make you the priority!
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My son is also getting married in 2 short months. They absolutely a beautiful couple . When I am with them I know they will share a beautiful life together till death do they part. My husband and I would have been celebrating our 33rd wedding anniversary this coming February. My husband was killed in a horrific car accident this past May. Do you have any advice for me on getting thru this most special day in my sons life. Also I’m lost for words on what to say to him .
First, my sympathies on the loss of your husband. I can’t step into your shoes, but my advice would be to let the people you love help you through the wedding day. I’m sure it will be difficult, but try to be present for your son and your future daughter-in-law for this one day. I know your husband will be with you in spirit to hold you up. Share with your son how you loved your husband and remember the joy you had together. Always speak from your heart. Tell him what you learned in 32 years of marriage and maybe something you might have done differently. I see nothing but love surrounding you that day!
I love your advice to your son such an awesome mother you are gods bless. I too am taking in your wonderful advice I have been married for 14 years now and oh boy does life get busy as you mention we have three littles and we appreciate your advice here. Thank you for posting . Blessings
Thank you for your comment, Maria! I’ve been married 32 years now and our three kids are grown and out of the house. Time goes fast but it’s important to keep your marriage strong, you’ll be glad you did in a few years.